Welcome!
IFS & Somatic Therapy for Exhausted People-Pleasers
If you’ve spent years being the responsible one —
the helper, the fixer, the emotionally aware one —
you may look high-functioning on the outside while feeling anxious, resentful, or exhausted inside.
IFS therapy and somatic therapy help you understand why these patterns formed — and how to gently change them at the root.
You don’t have to override yourself anymore.
Tending to yourself is not a burden-- it's sacred.
I specialize in working with adults who are searching for help with:
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​Narcissistic abuse recovery and emotional abuse
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Healing from emotionally immature or unavailable parents
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Codependency and chronic people-pleasing
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Trauma bonding and confusing relationship cycles
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Complex trauma (C-PTSD) and attachment wounds​
Katie Ray
About
Because they often feel:
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Like they’ve lost themselves in relationships
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Responsible for everyone else’s emotions
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Guilty setting boundaries
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Confused, gaslit, or disconnected from their intuition
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Deeply caring — and deeply exhausted
Many of my clients are insightful and self-aware.
They understand their patterns intellectually — but still feel stuck.
That’s where Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and somatic trauma therapy become powerful.
"I feel like I can never say no without feeling guilty."
"I don't even know what I want anymore."
"I feel like I have to be perfect otherwise people will stop loving me."
I help clients move from:
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Over-responsibility → grounded boundaries
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People-pleasing → self-trust
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Hypervigilance → nervous system safety
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Insight alone → embodied change
Healing Approaches
Certified IFS Therapy (Parts Work)
As a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner, I offer advanced-level IFS therapy beyond basic training. We gently explore the protective parts of you that may have taken on extreme roles — people-pleasing, perfectionism, over-functioning — and help them soften. From your grounded Self, we create internal balance instead of self-abandonment.
Somatic Yoga & Nervous System Support
I integrate yoga, mindfulness, and nervous system education to help you build a compassionate relationship with yourself. Together we learn to listen to your body to understand your boundaries, emotions, and needs so you can stop over-giving and start feeling restored. This is somatic therapy in action — grounded, practical tools that support healthier relationships and sustainable self-care.
Trauma & Attachment Healing
I provide trauma-informed therapy to help heal patterns rooted in attachment wounds and past overwhelm. Trauma can wire the nervous system toward hypervigilance, shutdown, or difficulty with boundaries. Through steady, attuned somatic and relational work, we build safety in the body so new patterns of connection can emerge.
If you’re looking for IFS therapy, somatic therapy, or support with codependency and people-pleasing patterns, I invite you to schedule a consultation.
Together we can explore whether this work feels aligned for you.
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You don’t have to keep carrying this alone.
Contact
Serving clients via telehealth in Oregon and Washington
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971-222-7330​
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Please contact me for your free 20 minute consultation